Even as I type that one word, I can hear in my head, the Archbishop from Princess Bride saying "Mahwage, mahwage is what keepswus togewer"...but that is not the point here...just an anecdote.
Ok,
An argument I recently had with someone was that 2 "gays" (or from what I discovered later in the argument, anyone in the community) who want to be married is as funny as 2 people of differing colors getting married. Or slavery for that matter. [I bet someone has already made this a chapter in some book, but here's my rant anyway.] If I wanted to marry a woman I haven't even met yet, say we meet next week, we fall madly in love, and I want to marry her for Christmas. Well, we can't get married in the Church - because we're going to hell, and we shouldn't contaminate the other holy parishiners - as they are against it, and we couldn't get married in most of the United States.
But say we pick one of the states that agrees to marry us, and not just give a Civil Union...fine, mostly New England, and then Iowa...or Mexico City (w00t). Now we're married. How to have children? I or she could look for a donor, and physically have one, or we could find a Juno and have theirs, or we could try globa, or domestic adoption. Now we're screwed. Many don't realize that in the same breath that most of the country was watching to see which way California would go, and if MA would hold it's ground, and if any of the other states would join us in Marriage...there were states who won't acknowledge the vote for marriage until they get past adoption.
Many states voted to keep same - sex couples from being ABLE to adopt children...What?!
Drug addicts can play nice and pass home inspections and adopt children. Pedophiles, Slavers, Drunks, "straights" who will abuse their children in one fashion or another once out of the cute stages of childhood - all allowed children, but not those dangerous same - sex couples.
I have a pair of friends who would make the best home for a child of any challenge (SGBLT, mentally challenged, physically challenged, aids, blind/deaf/mute, constantly happy, etc.) except possibly bigotry, but they know that to get married would invite ridicule if not violence from their family members, communities, and then to want children would cause even more drama...too much drama for a happy home.
I know life is not fair, and love from family comes in MANY twisted flavors that occassionally needs years and tuitions worth of therapy, personal reflection (many meanings there) or whatever helps you understand as I have, that love is love, and however well-intentioned will hurt you nonetheless until you're ready to outgrow the pain, and LIVE LIFE...but marriage is living life with someone else.
Then you are asking someone else to join you in hell....if it is not what people expect for you. And swearing at them is not the answer.
But to see my friends - couples I know across the spectrum (go rainbow!) - live a level of unfairlifeness (new word), that just upsets me.
How is it that a Black man can be President of the United States of America and one human being cannot be legally allowed to marry whomever they want? I'm not saying you have to like it, I'm not saying you have to approve...but damn. If you were told you couldn't marry your spouse...you shouldn't even live in the same house as they do...we shouldn't trust you to raise children any more than we would trust a toddler near the edge of a volcano with no supervision or fireproof clothing...what would you do? How would you fight that? You would, wouldn't you? You would fight to be able to live your life, right? You wouldn't want to be able to compare your life to Jim Crow rules, do you? They didn't want the two "types" of people interbreeding...that one word says enough of the hate of those two centuries...but we are not far past such Hatred and Bigotry.
Even as an Ally, I too have been hated. Screamed at. Had violence done to me.
I've been called dyke, lesbo, carpet muncher, and worse; but when they tie in the fac tthat I'm Mexican with their insults, then I getmad for whole new reasons which I won't delve into (as I consider it off topic) here. [But Spic Dyke was one of my least favorite terms directed at me ever.]
I want to raise a family, and raise happy children with whomever I please - man, woman, one of each.
That's my rant.
Thank you.
Ok,
An argument I recently had with someone was that 2 "gays" (or from what I discovered later in the argument, anyone in the community) who want to be married is as funny as 2 people of differing colors getting married. Or slavery for that matter. [I bet someone has already made this a chapter in some book, but here's my rant anyway.] If I wanted to marry a woman I haven't even met yet, say we meet next week, we fall madly in love, and I want to marry her for Christmas. Well, we can't get married in the Church - because we're going to hell, and we shouldn't contaminate the other holy parishiners - as they are against it, and we couldn't get married in most of the United States.
But say we pick one of the states that agrees to marry us, and not just give a Civil Union...fine, mostly New England, and then Iowa...or Mexico City (w00t). Now we're married. How to have children? I or she could look for a donor, and physically have one, or we could find a Juno and have theirs, or we could try globa, or domestic adoption. Now we're screwed. Many don't realize that in the same breath that most of the country was watching to see which way California would go, and if MA would hold it's ground, and if any of the other states would join us in Marriage...there were states who won't acknowledge the vote for marriage until they get past adoption.
Many states voted to keep same - sex couples from being ABLE to adopt children...What?!
Drug addicts can play nice and pass home inspections and adopt children. Pedophiles, Slavers, Drunks, "straights" who will abuse their children in one fashion or another once out of the cute stages of childhood - all allowed children, but not those dangerous same - sex couples.
I have a pair of friends who would make the best home for a child of any challenge (SGBLT, mentally challenged, physically challenged, aids, blind/deaf/mute, constantly happy, etc.) except possibly bigotry, but they know that to get married would invite ridicule if not violence from their family members, communities, and then to want children would cause even more drama...too much drama for a happy home.
I know life is not fair, and love from family comes in MANY twisted flavors that occassionally needs years and tuitions worth of therapy, personal reflection (many meanings there) or whatever helps you understand as I have, that love is love, and however well-intentioned will hurt you nonetheless until you're ready to outgrow the pain, and LIVE LIFE...but marriage is living life with someone else.
Then you are asking someone else to join you in hell....if it is not what people expect for you. And swearing at them is not the answer.
But to see my friends - couples I know across the spectrum (go rainbow!) - live a level of unfairlifeness (new word), that just upsets me.
How is it that a Black man can be President of the United States of America and one human being cannot be legally allowed to marry whomever they want? I'm not saying you have to like it, I'm not saying you have to approve...but damn. If you were told you couldn't marry your spouse...you shouldn't even live in the same house as they do...we shouldn't trust you to raise children any more than we would trust a toddler near the edge of a volcano with no supervision or fireproof clothing...what would you do? How would you fight that? You would, wouldn't you? You would fight to be able to live your life, right? You wouldn't want to be able to compare your life to Jim Crow rules, do you? They didn't want the two "types" of people interbreeding...that one word says enough of the hate of those two centuries...but we are not far past such Hatred and Bigotry.
Even as an Ally, I too have been hated. Screamed at. Had violence done to me.
I've been called dyke, lesbo, carpet muncher, and worse; but when they tie in the fac tthat I'm Mexican with their insults, then I getmad for whole new reasons which I won't delve into (as I consider it off topic) here. [But Spic Dyke was one of my least favorite terms directed at me ever.]
I want to raise a family, and raise happy children with whomever I please - man, woman, one of each.
That's my rant.
Thank you.
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